Support Rooted In Your Ancestral Story
Trauma-informed systemic therapy and Family Constellations for individuals, couples and blended families Gold Coast & online
Who I support
Who I support
I work with people who are ready to look a little deeper than “symptoms” and explore the bigger field they belong to.
This includes:
- Individuals wanting to understand patterns of anxiety, depression, stuckness or burnout
- Couples navigating conflict, distance, betrayal or big life transitions
- Parents and stepparents in blended families wanting more ease, clarity and connection
- Adult children carrying family burdens that don’t really belong to them
- Therapists and practitioners curious about systemic and constellation-based perspectives
Whether you come on your own, as a couple, or via a group workshop, we’ll hold your story within the wider context of your family and history.
Melanie Enders
Family Constellation Facilitator • Psychotherapist • Mother • Immigrant • Lifelong student of systems
I’ve been immersed in Family & Systemic Constellations for over 15 years, learning from multiple teachers and integrating this with formal training in psychology (BA Psychological Science) and Gestalt psychotherapy (Grad. Cert. Gestalt Therapy).
My work now is a fusion of:
- Systemic & Family Constellations
- Relational and trauma-informed psychotherapy
- Emotionally focused and attachment-based approaches
- A deep respect for culture, ancestry and lived experience
I was born and raised in Bavaria, Germany and have lived in Australia since 2006. As a mother of three boys and part of a blended family myself, I understand how layered family life can be – especially when you add migration, language, culture and history into the mix.
All of this informs how I sit with you: with curiosity, warmth, and a genuine reverence for the human experience, please call me Mel.
How I Work
At the heart of my work is a systemic question:
“What is this behaviour, symptom or struggle trying to serve in the wider family system?”
Rather than asking “What’s wrong with me/us?” we gently explore:
- The family stories, losses and secrets that may still echo in the present
- The loyalties you hold to parents, partners, former partners and children
- Nervous system patterns shaped by trauma, attachment and survival strategies
- The orders of love – belonging, hierarchy and balance between giving and taking
Depending on what you need, sessions might include:
- One-to-one therapy (in person or online)
- Couples work (including separated or co-parenting couples)
- Family Constellation processes (individual or group)
- Somatic and grounding practices
- Practical psycho-education you can take home and work with
Our pace is gentle but clear. We move slowly enough for your system to feel safe, yet honestly enough to meet what’s really asking to be seen.
Blended families: many hearts, many histories, one system
Blended families are beautiful – and they can be incredibly demanding on everyone’s nervous system.
There are often:
- Former partners and new partners
- Children moving between homes
- Different parenting styles and values
- Old hurts, unspoken grief and divided loyalties
In this space, children often become the messengers of the system, showing through their behaviour what the adults cannot yet say.
In our work together, we can:
- Acknowledge and honour all the important members of the system (including former partners)
- Clarify roles and responsibilities so adults can be the big ones and children can be the small ones again
- Explore the couple bond and how past relationships may still be active in the nervous system
- Support children by supporting the system around them
My intention is always the same: more clarity, more softness, and more space for each person to belong as themselves.
How this work can help
Together we may explore themes such as:
- Feeling stuck in repeating patterns in love, work or family
- Ongoing conflict, distance or mistrust in your relationship
- Parenting or co-parenting struggles (especially in blended families)
- Anxiety, overwhelm, burnout or emotional numbness
- Addiction and self-soothing patterns that are hard to shift
- Grief and loss, including transgenerational and unmourned grief
- Feeling responsible for everyone else, struggling to set boundaries
- A vague sense of not quite belonging – in your family, culture or country
You don’t need the “perfect words” to describe what’s going on. If you feel something in you says “I can’t keep doing it like this”, we can start there.
Work with me
I offer:
- Individual sessions – in person (Gold Coast/Tweed region) & online
- Couples sessions – including separated and co-parenting couples
- Family Constellation workshops – group days for deeper systemic work
- Professional mentoring – for therapists and facilitators exploring systemic approaches
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